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Confidently You





What if I can't keep it together all the time? Sure, I put on a good show: smile a lot, pretend things don't bother me, shrug people's excuses off. But what if it's actually tearing me apart that I'm constantly excluded? What if I am too self conscious to attend parties, events, or even to walk outside because I keep being pushed aside for someone better? If my supposed friends don't want me, then who ever will.
What if people see through my lies? What if they see I'm not okay. Then I'll look weak. I'll be a performance they love to watch.

What if you stopped listening to yourself? Sometimes, we are our own worst enemies. The mind is an incredibly powerful thing, with the ability to shape us, or break us. Every morning I go through that same rhyme in my head: people hate me, I'm alone, no one actually wants to spend time with me....cool lets go to varsity. Every morning I put myself down.
Why?
Why are we so hard on ourselves? Even if those thoughts are remotely true, are those the type of people you want your life? I can assure you that no matter how quite or outgoing, smart or sports orientated, slim or more-to-love...no matter how well you do, how many times you go out, or how many friends you have, you are an INCREDIBLE person that anyone would be lucky to spend time with. And I don't say this generically. I truly mean that YOU are amazing! You just have to see it.

Speak life over yourself! See your true value as someone worth loving. No one person is better than another. NEVER put your value in the hands of people who cannot see it to begin with! I challenge you to reach out. Invite people to events! Don't wait for them. Organise movie nights, parties...whatever. just be the initiator instead of waiting for others. The response will amaze you!

See your worth, your value and your beauty. It isn't for others to belittle, but for you to shine! Be so confident in your worth that it's impossible for others to question. And if they do....so what! You don't need the 1% of the population who dislikes you. Focus on the 99% that do!

Xx

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