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One month

They say it takes a month to break or start a habit. Just one month. 4 weeks. 30 days. It doesn't sound like a long time, but a lot can happen in a month.

As someone with dermatophagia, I hurt myself a lot. However, it has been one month since I hurt myself in any way. It has been one month since I had a depressive spell. It has been one amazing month for me! In retrospect, it isn't a very long period of time. But it's enough to change your perspective. I started focusing on who I am, instead of the comparative 'who I want to be'. And I found that she's a pretty great person, not perfect, but unique. It took a month for me to find who I really am, what I love and who I not want to be, but have already been. I love what I found, and I can walk with a new found confidence and hope that I have never had before. And I didn't to anything particularly 'fancy'...I just took one month and devoted it to me.

I encourage you to take a month. You do not have to start on the 1st. Just take one month for yourself. Break a habit thats disrupting your life. Start a healthy new one. Change your perspective of yourself, your life and your relationships. Change your negativity and focus on what makes you happy. Take care of yourself - exercise, make a diet change, take your medication. For one month, be you. Be unapologetically, completely you. I promise you, after one month, you wouldn't want to be anyone else. And it's ok if being you means that you aren't always feeling ok. It's ok if being you means needing medication. It's ok if you havn't won your battle yet. But a month of finding yourself, and being unafraid of what you will find, is the bravest and best thing you will ever do, and people will have a new respect for your confidence.

So they say it takes one month to break or start a habit. What would you like to change this month? It isn't a very long time, but it will be the best month of your life. Set goals, do it as a group of friends you trust, focus on yourself...whatever you want to do to get to know yourself this month. 

It's just 4 weeks...30 days. So I dare you...Be YOU.

Xx

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